Comments on: What are You Thinking? How to Eliminate Regret and Worry Through Mastery of “The 3 Places of Thought”… http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/ Been lied to lately? Or could you tell--how to master deception, lying, and conversation... Sat, 19 May 2012 12:03:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-378 Jef Sun, 19 Sep 2010 19:42:10 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-378 Very nice, much appreciate that Chuc! Very nice, much appreciate that Chuc!

]]> By: Chuc Barnes http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-376 Chuc Barnes Sat, 18 Sep 2010 14:45:46 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-376 This is a good post, Jef. You're probably going to hear me quoting you in several places. Nicely done! -Chuc This is a good post, Jef. You’re probably going to hear me quoting you in several places. Nicely done! -Chuc

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-374 Jef Fri, 17 Sep 2010 03:47:08 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-374 <strong>Readers: </strong> If I'd never met Alan Foust, I would have never written Conquering Deception... he's the guy who (unwittingly) motivated me to write in the first place; inspired might be the better word. I worked for him during my u/c time and learned a lot from him, was led to think in ways I hadn't considered before. Oh, and Alan gets credit for being the first person professionally to recognize abnormal potential in me. If you've attended one of my presentations you've heard me mention Alan Foust by name. He's an original thinker with a lot of diverse experience, so you'll want to check out his blog here: http://blog.missouriboy.com/ <strong>Alan:</strong> Thanks for checking in... I'll give you a call soon, we need to catch up. -jef Readers: If I’d never met Alan Foust, I would have never written Conquering Deception… he’s the guy who (unwittingly) motivated me to write in the first place; inspired might be the better word.

I worked for him during my u/c time and learned a lot from him, was led to think in ways I hadn’t considered before. Oh, and Alan gets credit for being the first person professionally to recognize abnormal potential in me.

If you’ve attended one of my presentations you’ve heard me mention Alan Foust by name. He’s an original thinker with a lot of diverse experience, so you’ll want to check out his blog here: http://blog.missouriboy.com/

Alan: Thanks for checking in… I’ll give you a call soon, we need to catch up.

-jef

]]> By: Alan Foust http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-373 Alan Foust Fri, 17 Sep 2010 01:33:01 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-373 Jef, Great post, and accurate. Reminds me of the ideas from the book, As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen. Great blog, too. Came across it as I was setting up mine (didn't have enough to do, so...). Anyway, great to make contact again and glad to see your book is in its second edition. Jef,

Great post, and accurate. Reminds me of the ideas from the book, As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen. Great blog, too. Came across it as I was setting up mine (didn’t have enough to do, so…). Anyway, great to make contact again and glad to see your book is in its second edition.

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-372 Jef Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:01:33 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-372 I've met people like that, too, who were happy (and looking at their circumstances they had good reason not to be!)... and it has amazed me. Ironically, the ones I've known with this unshakeable positive attitude didn't have some master plan for 'staying in the moment', rather they seemed to just ignore the negatives. Maybe I misjudged, but that was the best explanation I could come up with. No plan or science, just their nature. But their attitude can be mimicked successfully... for the multitudes that don't have this innate trait, the synthetic version is what I've cited: Consciously staying tuned in to what's going on at the moment--and consciously refusing to let oursleves be sucked into past thoughts or any anxieties the future "holds". Yes, it can be done. Simple, not easy, but very do-able... the hardest part is just catching ourself, REMEMBERING to do this. Thanks Jeannie! -jef I’ve met people like that, too, who were happy (and looking at their circumstances they had good reason not to be!)… and it has amazed me.

Ironically, the ones I’ve known with this unshakeable positive attitude didn’t have some master plan for ’staying in the moment’, rather they seemed to just ignore the negatives. Maybe I misjudged, but that was the best explanation I could come up with. No plan or science, just their nature.

But their attitude can be mimicked successfully… for the multitudes that don’t have this innate trait, the synthetic version is what I’ve cited: Consciously staying tuned in to what’s going on at the moment–and consciously refusing to let oursleves be sucked into past thoughts or any anxieties the future “holds”.

Yes, it can be done.

Simple, not easy, but very do-able… the hardest part is just catching ourself, REMEMBERING to do this.

Thanks Jeannie!

-jef

]]> By: **Jeannie http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-371 **Jeannie Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:31:04 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-371 wow. "in any given typical moment, there’s usually ZERO stress" So it is possible! Just met a person who's like this, always happy. Thank you! *j wow. “in any given typical moment, there’s usually ZERO stress”
So it is possible! Just met a person who’s like this, always happy.

Thank you!
*j

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-370 Jef Wed, 08 Sep 2010 16:15:03 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-370 hi Jeannie, many thanks... avg person is preoccupied with 4 things, interesting. I can believe that. That's pretty good that you were actually counting the number of things you were thinking about... you're in a very small minority who ever stop to observe their own thinking this way. Amazing. So in any given typical moment, there's usually ZERO stress... usually pretty peaceful... so our thoughts immediately go backward or forward to find some, right?! Great to hear your take on this Jeannie, thanks much! -je hi Jeannie, many thanks… avg person is preoccupied with 4 things, interesting. I can believe that.

That’s pretty good that you were actually counting the number of things you were thinking about… you’re in a very small minority who ever stop to observe their own thinking this way. Amazing.

So in any given typical moment, there’s usually ZERO stress… usually pretty peaceful… so our thoughts immediately go backward or forward to find some, right?!

Great to hear your take on this Jeannie, thanks much!

-je

]]> By: **Jeannie http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/09/07/what-are-you-thinking-how-to-eliminate-regret-and-worry-through-mastery-of-the-3-places-of-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-369 **Jeannie Wed, 08 Sep 2010 09:35:31 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=2324#comment-369 Jef, this is a great post and a lot of people will benefit from this. Just last night before going to bed i literally enumerated the thoughts I have been preoccupied with during the day. Someone said that at any given time, every person is in a trance preoccupied with an average of 4 things in their minds. I had double. And so i thought to myself, what's the most important thing I get to focus on? And i immediately knew the answer. I like how you describe the past as memory, and the future as imagination. I don't think I've come across anyone who put it that way before. It'll be good to always do a mind check and ask ourselves - am i focusing on a memory, or on something imagined? If most of us are focused on 'NOW' I truly believe the world will be a much happier place. Suggested reading: Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth. And yes, I love your book Conquering Deception- a lot of practical things I've learned there that i apply in my encounters with different people. Thank you Jef and more power. *Jeannie Jef, this is a great post and a lot of people will benefit from this. Just last night before going to bed i literally enumerated the thoughts I have been preoccupied with during the day. Someone said that at any given time, every person is in a trance preoccupied with an average of 4 things in their minds. I had double. And so i thought to myself, what’s the most important thing I get to focus on? And i immediately knew the answer.

I like how you describe the past as memory, and the future as imagination. I don’t think I’ve come across anyone who put it that way before. It’ll be good to always do a mind check and ask ourselves - am i focusing on a memory, or on something imagined?

If most of us are focused on ‘NOW’ I truly believe the world will be a much happier place.

Suggested reading: Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth.

And yes, I love your book Conquering Deception- a lot of practical things I’ve learned there that i apply in my encounters with different people.

Thank you Jef and more power.
*Jeannie

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