Comments on: Did They Really Apologize? 4 Surefire Ways to Know if an Apology is Real—What Mark, Tiger, and John Can Teach You About Coming Clean… http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/ Been lied to lately? Or could you tell--how to master deception, lying, and conversation... Thu, 29 Jul 2010 13:58:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-298 Jef Sun, 02 May 2010 23:14:32 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-298 Excellent questions, Jeannie! Here's the answer, and it doesn't apply just to celebrities: <strong>Guaranteed momentary gratification is ALWAYS more powerful than the thought of distant ramifications that may or may not result.</strong> If they're truly remorseful for the actual act, we wouldn't know. They might not even know; because they ARE remorseful for being caught. If they were truly remorseful for the ACT, our knowing about it wouldn't have required them being caught. But celebrity or serf, who owns up to something out of the blue? -jef Excellent questions, Jeannie!

Here’s the answer, and it doesn’t apply just to celebrities: Guaranteed momentary gratification is ALWAYS more powerful than the thought of distant ramifications that may or may not result.

If they’re truly remorseful for the actual act, we wouldn’t know. They might not even know; because they ARE remorseful for being caught. If they were truly remorseful for the ACT, our knowing about it wouldn’t have required them being caught.

But celebrity or serf, who owns up to something out of the blue?

-jef

]]> By: **Jeannie http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-295 **Jeannie Thu, 29 Apr 2010 23:51:37 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-295 Hi Jef, Ben's statement is on my blog, I really didn't have much to say, maybe you do.. go check, K? About this post (your post). I'm interested in what you think. Obviously you have met almost every type of person on earth because of your profession. All of these famous people getting caught and then apologizing - makes me wonder why they could carry on doing this until the day they get caught? Does it happen to regular people too? Are people truly without a conscience? It is amazing how they can keep up with their lies and not 'fracture.' Has lying become a sport to the wealthy and powerful? In the case of Ben, is it because of his age and fame that he's out of control? Why do people think they are invincible and at what point does that happen? Is there any rich or famous person who is truly remorseful? *jeannie Hi Jef, Ben’s statement is on my blog, I really didn’t have much to say, maybe you do.. go check, K?

About this post (your post). I’m interested in what you think. Obviously you have met almost every type of person on earth because of your profession. All of these famous people getting caught and then apologizing - makes me wonder why they could carry on doing this until the day they get caught? Does it happen to regular people too? Are people truly without a conscience? It is amazing how they can keep up with their lies and not ‘fracture.’ Has lying become a sport to the wealthy and powerful? In the case of Ben, is it because of his age and fame that he’s out of control? Why do people think they are invincible and at what point does that happen? Is there any rich or famous person who is truly remorseful?

*jeannie

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-294 Jef Thu, 29 Apr 2010 20:41:01 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-294 hey Jeannie... Ben's is scripted, right? They're less revealing than impromptu statements, but I'll take a look at it... they can be pretty revealing sometimes, too, because virtually no one (even press experts) know how to script a denial statement that's fireproof! thanks Jeannie! -jef hey Jeannie… Ben’s is scripted, right? They’re less revealing than impromptu statements,
but I’ll take a look at it… they can be pretty revealing sometimes, too, because virtually no
one (even press experts) know how to script a denial statement that’s fireproof!

thanks Jeannie!

-jef

]]> By: **Jeannie http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-293 **Jeannie Tue, 27 Apr 2010 01:29:56 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-293 I am waiting for the statement of Ben Roethlisberger I am waiting for the statement of Ben Roethlisberger

]]> By: ***Jeannie http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-264 ***Jeannie Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:27:01 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-264 not in the form of words, but in the form of behavior... http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/sports/2010/02/19/sot.tiger.woods.statement.cnn?hpt=C2 not in the form of words, but in the form of behavior…

http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/sports/2010/02/19/sot.tiger.woods.statement.cnn?hpt=C2

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-262 Jef Wed, 17 Feb 2010 16:13:29 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-262 hey, Jeannie, I agree, well said! Hadn't really thought of it that way... it's true the need for an apology says more about the mindset of the offended... than the offender. Thanks J! hey, Jeannie, I agree, well said! Hadn’t really thought of it that way… it’s true the need for an apology says more about the mindset
of the offended… than the offender.

Thanks J!

]]> By: ***Jeannie http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-260 ***Jeannie Sun, 14 Feb 2010 05:14:15 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-260 Hi Jef, People apologize when they are threatened. I don't remember when i made a dramatic heart felt apology, not even in my childhood - it's either I'm cold, or apologies are really not about the wrong doing, instead they are about the offended person's ego. Or demanded by a power tripper. Apologies seem more like an obligation to the wounded. And it's weird how i take it personally when i don't get an apology (in the past). These days, i just find ways to get over things i have no control of. This is making me re-think the way i correct my son... uggh If someone does something serious against me, I will expect justice in some way.. J Hi Jef,
People apologize when they are threatened.
I don’t remember when i made a dramatic heart felt apology, not even in my childhood - it’s either I’m cold, or apologies are really not about the wrong doing, instead they are about the offended person’s ego. Or demanded by a power tripper. Apologies seem more like an obligation to the wounded. And it’s weird how i take it personally when i don’t get an apology (in the past). These days, i just find ways to get over things i have no control of.
This is making me re-think the way i correct my son… uggh

If someone does something serious against me, I will expect justice in some way..

J

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-259 Jef Tue, 19 Jan 2010 10:51:29 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-259 It's National Voyeurism... people can't get enough of knowing about the trouble others have gotten themselves into. Always been true, it's just bigger now, the media, you know. Mrs. Kravitz... on steroids. Thanks Jim! It’s National Voyeurism… people can’t get enough of knowing about the trouble others
have gotten themselves into. Always been true, it’s just bigger now, the media, you
know.

Mrs. Kravitz… on steroids.

Thanks Jim!

]]> By: Jim http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2010/01/15/did-they-really-apologize-4-surefire-ways-to-know-if-an-apology-is-real%e2%80%94what-mark-tiger-and-john-can-teach-you-about-coming-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-258 Jim Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:46:19 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1825#comment-258 Right on! And what is this incessant need for everyone to know the blow by blow of these couples' divorce/reconciliation. Right on! And what is this incessant need for everyone to know
the blow by blow of these couples’ divorce/reconciliation.

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