Comments on: Freak Show Panhandling with Blatant Honesty—Plus How to Manipulate the Trust of Another Person, Secret Tip #11… http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/ Been lied to lately? Or could you tell--how to master deception, lying, and conversation... Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:21:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/comment-page-1/#comment-255 Jef Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:15:46 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1748#comment-255 Honesty is admired before the fact, but rarely after when it involves both parties. People appreciate truthfulness more than we realize, but again, if the truth pertains to something done TO them, tread carefully. The ego doesn't handle deception well. Thanks V. Honesty is admired before the fact, but rarely after when it involves both parties. People appreciate
truthfulness more than we realize, but again, if the truth pertains to something done TO them, tread
carefully. The ego doesn’t handle deception well.

Thanks V.

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/comment-page-1/#comment-253 Jef Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:50:10 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1748#comment-253 Right on... but if you get to Venice before I do, give him a buck and tell him it's from me. Right on… but if you get to Venice before I do, give him a buck and tell him it’s
from me.

]]> By: ***jeannie*** http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/comment-page-1/#comment-252 ***jeannie*** Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:43:30 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1748#comment-252 awww, that was honest, and if you did it doesn't go against my interest, LOL. fun... No you don't owe him anything. He already got his publicity. awww, that was honest, and if you did it doesn’t go against my interest, LOL. fun…
No you don’t owe him anything. He already got his publicity.

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/comment-page-1/#comment-251 Jef Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:21 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1748#comment-251 Yep, he's been there for years, they say, so I guess it's working. You said, "honesty makes a person more likable and attractive. It makes others feel not so bad about themselves." Your last sentence exactly hits on what makes another person have trust, open up... when we're honest about our own shortcomings. <strong>But here's the careful difference:</strong> If you admit something that goes against your interests AND THEIRS, this won't work. Admit you've done something that steps on the other person's best interests and you'll get NO CREDIT, but a LOT of repurcussions! Admitting, "I stole a piece of candy when I was 12" is one thing... admit, "I stole YOUR candy," and it's a different game. And you're right, Jeannie, gotta use great discretion in what we reveal... No, didn't give him a dime (would I admit it, anyway?)... think I owe him now, don't you?! Yep, he’s been there for years, they say, so I guess it’s working.

You said, “honesty makes a person more likable and attractive. It makes others feel not so bad about themselves.”

Your last sentence exactly hits on what makes another person have trust, open up… when we’re honest about our own shortcomings.

But here’s the careful difference: If you admit something that goes against your interests AND THEIRS, this won’t work. Admit you’ve done
something that steps on the other person’s best interests and you’ll get NO CREDIT, but a LOT of repurcussions!

Admitting, “I stole a piece of candy when I was 12″ is one thing… admit, “I stole YOUR candy,” and it’s a different game.

And you’re right, Jeannie, gotta use great discretion in what we reveal…

No, didn’t give him a dime (would I admit it, anyway?)… think I owe him now, don’t you?!

]]> By: ***jeannie*** http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/comment-page-1/#comment-250 ***jeannie*** Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:14:25 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1748#comment-250 Fun! Now i have a reason to go to Venice Beach next time. If the Wino has been doing this for years and is still in Venice, it must be a lucrative business for him. And now after this post of yours, you're really helping him. enabler!!!! LOL You said, "there’s something disarming about blatant honesty that seemingly goes against the interests of the person who uses it." Goes against, and you said seemingly. I think this is the reason why people lie or deceive, or are less real. Most people think that if they reveal the truth, it will backfire on them. I do agree that honesty makes a person more likable and attractive. It makes others feel not so bad about themselves. However, we don't have to reveal everything to anyone and everyone. So did you give him money? Fun! Now i have a reason to go to Venice Beach next time.
If the Wino has been doing this for years and is still in Venice, it must be a lucrative business for him. And now after this post of yours, you’re really helping him. enabler!!!! LOL

You said, “there’s something disarming about blatant honesty that seemingly goes against the interests of the person who uses it.” Goes against, and you said seemingly. I think this is the reason why people lie or deceive, or are less real. Most people think that if they reveal the truth, it will backfire on them. I do agree that honesty makes a person more likable and attractive. It makes others feel not so bad about themselves.

However, we don’t have to reveal everything to anyone and everyone.

So did you give him money?

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/11/21/freak-show-panhandling-with-blatant-honesty%e2%80%94plus-how-to-manipulate-the-trust-of-another-person-secret-tip-11/comment-page-1/#comment-257 Jef Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:27:13 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1748#comment-257 It's entertaining, but it ain't Disneyland. Good advice Bart. -j It’s entertaining, but it ain’t Disneyland. Good advice Bart.

-j

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