Comments on: The People Around You Will Keep You Average—How to Capitalize on Being Different… http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/ Been lied to lately? Or could you tell--how to master deception, lying, and conversation... Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:12:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-169 Jef Sat, 25 Jul 2009 00:52:52 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-169 Wow, hats off to your friend, Rich, much to learn from her I'm sure. Yep, looks like it could be AZ I guess, but it's Hillcrest Drive in Beverly Hills... got lost looking for my dog. Thanks for thoughts, Rich, more to come soon, stay tuned! -jef Wow, hats off to your friend, Rich, much to learn from her I’m sure.

Yep, looks like it could be AZ I guess, but it’s Hillcrest Drive in Beverly Hills… got lost looking for my dog.

Thanks for thoughts, Rich, more to come soon, stay tuned!

-jef

]]> By: Rich Kenney http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-168 Rich Kenney Fri, 24 Jul 2009 23:02:54 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-168 Jef, Your thoughts struck a chord with me. Nice job. I have a friend who is an equestrian and who happens to be blind. Her motto is, if you do your best and believe in yourself, you can lasso the moon! ... By the way, is that the University of Arizona in Tucson at the top of your page? If so, Go Wildcats - I'm a U of A grad from many moons ago... Rich Jef,
Your thoughts struck a chord with me. Nice job. I have a friend who is an equestrian and who happens to be blind. Her motto is, if you do your best and believe in yourself, you can lasso the moon! …

By the way, is that the University of Arizona in Tucson at the top of your page? If so, Go Wildcats - I’m a U of A grad from many moons ago…
Rich

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Jef Fri, 10 Jul 2009 01:28:32 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-158 Too bad for most kids, their parents don't teach them a few basics that would serve them well... because they don't know the basics themselves? Probably. So they have to figure out the savvy stuff on their own, or worse yet, it never enters their minds. The upside: Opportunity for the wise. "But for the fools, the rest of us could not succeed." -Mark Twain Good for you, Kelli, you have a Pop that's never been "average" so you're quite fortunate--give him a hug, or a bottle of scotch, you know his preferences better than I do. Great quote there, and it goes for men, too, I guess. Think Ben Franklin... and Ted Bundy. Thanks Kelli! -j Too bad for most kids, their parents don’t teach them a few basics that would serve them well… because they don’t know the basics themselves? Probably.

So they have to figure out the savvy stuff on their own, or worse yet, it never enters their minds. The upside: Opportunity for the wise. “But for the fools, the rest of us could not succeed.” -Mark Twain

Good for you, Kelli, you have a Pop that’s never been “average” so you’re quite fortunate–give him a hug, or a bottle of scotch, you know his preferences better than I do.

Great quote there, and it goes for men, too, I guess. Think Ben Franklin… and Ted Bundy.

Thanks Kelli!

-j

]]> By: Kelli http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-157 Kelli Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:59:58 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-157 Nice post! My dad always told me two things about success: 1. If you stick your head above the crowd, be okay with the people around you trying to lop it off and 2. Following the herd means you go off the cliff with them. Probably needless to say, but my dad's a successful entrepreneur and a *bit* of a contrarian. The funniest thing I've seen him do is actually listen to people at parties (especially the "investing circles") when they talk about stocks, companies and investment opportunities and then promptly go home and either make a note to not invest in that particular opportunity or get out of the stock if he's in it. The amazing thing... it works. I guess I've become a bit of a contrarian as well... just in my outlook on relationships -- dates/friends/family. It seems to work well for me. Be real, be daring and be open to new experiences. I like the quote "Well behaved women rarely make history." *grin* Nice post! My dad always told me two things about success:
1. If you stick your head above the crowd, be okay with the people around you trying to lop it off and
2. Following the herd means you go off the cliff with them.

Probably needless to say, but my dad’s a successful entrepreneur and a *bit* of a contrarian. The funniest thing I’ve seen him do is actually listen to people at parties (especially the “investing circles”) when they talk about stocks, companies and investment opportunities and then promptly go home and either make a note to not invest in that particular opportunity or get out of the stock if he’s in it. The amazing thing… it works.

I guess I’ve become a bit of a contrarian as well… just in my outlook on relationships — dates/friends/family. It seems to work well for me. Be real, be daring and be open to new experiences. I like the quote “Well behaved women rarely make history.” *grin*

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Jef Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:27:33 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-156 Well said, Jeannie, and thanks for mentioning the Nick V video, check it out, all, you can see it at Jeannie's blog at http://reallyjm.blogspot.com/2009/03/lets-get-back-up-together.html That video has been clinically proven to cure the average person of complaining for 2.7 days... Well said, Jeannie, and thanks for mentioning the Nick V video, check it out, all, you can see it at Jeannie’s blog at http://reallyjm.blogspot.com/2009/03/lets-get-back-up-together.html

That video has been clinically proven to cure the average person of complaining for 2.7 days…

]]> By: ***jeannie*** http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-155 ***jeannie*** Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:59:38 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-155 A very good movie that illustrates your point Jef is The Pursuit of Happyness starring Will Smith and his son. In the movie he tells his son not to let anybody tell him 'you can't do it', including Will Smith himself. As for your friend Paul, his story reminds me of the video of Nick V http://reallyjm.blogspot.com/2009/03/lets-get-back-up-together.html and what struck me is the way he said, " I, am HAPPY." How many times do you hear people say it that way? And he's NOT THE AVERAGE guy at all. There was a commencement address I read a few days ago, where the superintendent tells the graduating high school class - to go and WOW everybody in everything they do. That struck me, it might be "the key" ! :) to make it one's objective to WOW others. A very good movie that illustrates your point Jef is The Pursuit of Happyness starring Will Smith and his son. In the movie he tells his son not to let anybody tell him ‘you can’t do it’, including Will Smith himself.

As for your friend Paul, his story reminds me of the video of Nick V http://reallyjm.blogspot.com/2009/03/lets-get-back-up-together.html and what struck me is the way he said, ” I, am HAPPY.” How many times do you hear people say it that way? And he’s NOT THE AVERAGE guy at all.

There was a commencement address I read a few days ago, where the superintendent tells the graduating high school class - to go and WOW everybody in everything they do. That struck me, it might be “the key” ! :) to make it one’s objective to WOW others.

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-154 Jef Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:30:50 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-154 I haven't seen Paul since high school, but through a mutual friend I know that he's got a wife, a family, and has lived a remarkably 'normal' life despite what's been handed to him. He was a great guy as I remember him, and he still is. I haven’t seen Paul since high school, but through a mutual friend I know that he’s got a wife, a family, and has lived a remarkably ‘normal’ life despite what’s been handed to him. He was a great guy as I remember him, and he still is.

]]> By: ***jeannie*** http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-152 ***jeannie*** Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:53:37 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-152 Your story about Paul is a sad one! Your story about Paul is a sad one!

]]> By: Jef http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-153 Jef Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:47:47 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-153 hey, Jeannie, thanks for the laugh~ Remnants of something I was writing, I guess, and it remained... Typo City. Proves it, you guys pick up on things I don't... keep me on my toes Jeannie! hey, Jeannie, thanks for the laugh~

Remnants of something I was writing, I guess, and it remained… Typo City.

Proves it, you guys pick up on things I don’t… keep me on my toes Jeannie!

]]> By: ***jeannie*** http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/2009/07/06/the-people-around-you-will-keep-you-average%e2%80%94how-to-capitalize-on-being-different%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-151 ***jeannie*** Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:43:50 +0000 http://www.deceptionsecrets.com/?p=1068#comment-151 Key? what Key? thanks Jeff... Key? what Key? thanks Jeff…

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